Monthly Archive June 2016

Anger, Resistance

Anger and resistance are other emotional cancers that manifest themselves in many people – from individuals all the way up to the destruction of our globe. We create our own reality – whatever we experience is our own doing. We draw energy fields – people and experiences – towards us and our surroundings simply reflect our inner selves. The physical reality before our eyes is also our own creation. Often it is unknowingly created to assist us in completing a certain task in life. Sometimes we find ourselves in challenging situations with others. It is important to remember that these people have their own imbalance and may also be working through difficult times. Communication often helps to highlight and hopefully improve our own reactions to their behaviour patterns.

How we respond to others is simply an opportunity to look at our inner selves. We cannot find a justification for any anger we hold against another person because it is simply an external expression, a mirror of our inner self. Responsibility for what is happening to us, begins and ends with ourselves. Often people tend to blame others for their own lack of success, but the difference between them is only the various factors that have been created. In the end, one who suffers from anger and rage really ends up just punishing themselves. When we cling to patterns of negativity and when we do not work on ourselves and our own reality, we are in fact lost.

In order to move past anger and resistance, some good advice is to first visualise the person or the experience that is associated with the anger. Next, try projecting love onto this person or experience in order to thank them for the gift of knowledge. Try visualising cutting the thread that binds you together or close your eyes and see the negative experience completely fade away. Practicing exercises like these puts you on the road to repair. You may find that anger and resistance will no longer be a part of your internal formula.

The global elite use anger as a great effect to start conflicts between all of us – for example, promoting the motto: “An eye for an eye”. When we do something we regret and we feel guilty for the affect it has had on others, remember: we have an eternity to fix what we have done. Each person has been dealt the experience cards they are given in life and their life is exactly that which is needed for their personal evolution. You might be sitting there right now feeling full of guilt…

Try looking at things like this – you have created a positive contribution in endless ways. Let’s look at anger and resistance from a different perspective by asking ourselves: “What have we done?” Then we will begin to see anger from a completely different angle. If we have made a “mistake” it is best to acknowledge it. Then, and only then, can we move forward, in turn helping ourselves and others. Remember: there really are no mistakes, only learnings from different experiences. Let us accept our mistakes as a true gift of knowledge. Fear, guilt and anger are products dogma – liability arising up from rigid values. In order to improve our perspective, it’s important to overstep the dogmas that cross emotions like anger.

Stress

I trust we all we know something about stress as every single person deals with some level of stress in our daily lives. If you use stress as a motivational tool it can be very good. Taking a motivational approach helps us to move forward in life and overcome challenges. Unfortunately, some of us often live within a very high-stress level – one that can grow almost daily. Every person has varying levels of stress and everybody deals with their stress in a different way. For example, one day you might sleep very well and even hold onto lots of stress without it being a really big deal. However, the next day might be less stressful and yet you will sleep quite unsoundly – holding your stress inside.

If you do have stress in your life, it’s a great opportunity to try different approaches on how to release it. Some people deal with stress by choosing to exercise regularly, some through being creative and practicing a hobby, others meet up with friends and be social, some people work even harder and still others choose meditation and connecting with nature. If you choose work all the time or play video games a lot of time these may not be the healthiest approaches. Another unhealthy way to deal with stress is by ignoring it and instead excessively indulging in food, alcohol or drugs in an attempt to satisfy your-self. If you do just little or from time to time, it’s okay but to be honest – as the saying goes – everything in moderation.

What should you do when a healthy approach doesn’t work?

I find it’s very effective when you are able to realize what causes your stress. Once you know where your stress stems from then you can work on eliminating the source from your life. Unfortunately, often we can’t completely eliminate all sources so what we can do is try to look at our stress from different perspective. Sometimes it’s helpful if you look at it like you are a completely different person. This approach may help you to see ways to change or if the stress you are experiencing is really as big as you think it is. Often after this realization we can deal more easily with stress.

 

Your Authentic Look

What is authenticity?

People say what is inside you, you should show on the outside. But most often on the outside we put on stylish clothes, some women often put on make-up and spend time each morning making quite elaborate hair styles. My belief is that this approach leads many people to feel a lot of pressure to look perfect. Imagine how much energy it takes to spend so much time checking how slim or fat, short or tall, fit or out of shape, casual or elegant we are. Often stylish clothing and fancy make-up can be used to cover up feelings of uncertainty, emotional problems or feelings of discrepancy. If we walk around each day thinking like this, how can we be truly authentic inside? I feel we put too much pressure on ourselves and on others to look a certain way. Why can’t we take the time to find out who we and who others really are? For example: How interesting it would be if we took the time to approach and converse with strangers of all sorts of ethnicities and walks of life? So many times we simply brush someone aside instead of talking with them or even giving them a helping hand. You may be pleasantly surprised by who you meet and become friends with if you are simply more open in your own demeanour. It is possible to get to this approach by asking ourselves, how do I feel? Perhaps try it. Next time you’re in a situation where you are questioning your approach, why not ask yourself, how do I really feel right now?

I consider myself lucky. I like to look good each day but I’m not caught up on how I look. This may sound a little confusing – let me explain, it’s so simple: I dress to feel comfortable and when I feel comfortable that is when I look really good. To myself I look good on the outside and I feel good on the inside. To someone else looking at me, they may think I look horrible but I truly don’t care. This is why I call myself lucky. But when you really think about it, it’s not luck it’s simply my positive, open outlook. So many women and men look in the mirror and don’t feel good at all. A woman did a study asking a large group of people if you could change something physical about your body, what would you change? Only two women in the entire group didn’t want change a single thing. Both of these women were handicapped. To me, this shows how much pressure we put on ourselves. Here’s a question for you to consider: Would you like to change something about yourself? And if yes, why? Perhaps next time instead of obsessing about a change, begin by asking yourself: “Am I being authentic right now?” or think to yourself “Do I like me?”

Appreciate

What is appreciation, I think for each of us there are different levels of appreciation. Everybody appreciates something but for everybody it is something different too. It depends on what is important for us and this changes with our situation as well. For example if you live a normal life and have every day easy access to food you normally have a low level of appreciation for it. But when you get in a situation when you cant eat for some time, when you do eat you really appreciate it. A person who doesn’t have money and it is a huge challenge to make money for food is glad for every single meal. I think here began prayer for food in lots of religions. And this helped to learn appreciation for every single thing. Plus if we are thankful for more stuff we are more happy.

Lots of studies say if we appreciate more we are happier and healthier. I agree with this but I believe we are not just more happy but we attract to our life a better situation, stuff and people. With appreciation goes had in hand a trust that the world is friendly. All this connects and makes us trust, believe and feel safe. If we have this feeling it comes automatically feelings of relaxation and happiness.