Monthly Archive August 2018

Open up to life

When: All the time

Why: When we have a fixed idea in our mind about something we are not always open to alternatives. So when an alternative is offered we think that’s not good enough. I believe a lot of our depression is from having a closed mind.  For example, you want to go for a holiday somewhere exotic such as Easter Island but you may not have enough money so you end up visiting somewhere close by.  If you are stuck on wanting to go somewhere else you won’t enjoy the other option and won’t have a great experience or make new friends.  So you will feel unfulfilled. But if you say well that’s fine too, it’s a big opportunity even though it’s not what I wanted to do, you will have a great time meeting new people and having new experiences. We never know what is around the corner. The more open we are, the more we can get out of our lives.

How: When something comes along that you don’t want to try, do this:

  • breathe into your body and relax
  • connect with yourself and open up.

If you feel scared to open up to the new experience fully, breathe into that feeling. If you do this the fear or whatever emotion you are experiencing should weaken. This way it should be easier for you to open up and allow whatever is coming into your life. When you are opening up you might experience new feelings but don’t give in to ‘mind talk’. Just carry on opening up to the  sensation.

Clean your Closets

When: This week and then every 3 months.

Why: Having a tidy place is good for us on so many levels. It relaxes our minds, we are more productive and it helps us to keep feeling positive.  When we go through our clothing and other possessions we find stuff that we forget we have. By having a sort out we can start using things again or give them away. You make space in your home and often we feel freed up mentally as well by doing this.

How: Choose one shelf or one closet.

Get three boxes or make three piles.

Take one thing at a time and ask yourself these two questions. When was the last time I used this? How important is it?

If you haven’t used it for a long time or it’s not functional put it in the box or pile for throwing out. If it’s something you have a personal attachment to you or you use once in a while put in the second ‘maybe’ box or pile.   What you use put in the third box or pile to keep. Then put that box or pile away back to where those items belong.

This way you should have a box or pile of things that you may keep.  (I recommend that you are very strict with the ‘maybe’ box and don’t keep more than half of that stuff.)

After doing this you have a box of stuff that you don’t need. Anything that’s broken put in the rubbish. You have options for the things you don’t want any more.  You can give to friends who will enjoy those things, sell them, put on a swap party with friends or give to charity.

If you are person who can’t throw stuff out ask a friend to go with you and throw things out after you’ve taken them from your home.

If you repeat this every three months you should keep your home in order, you will use everything and you will feel good about what you’ve done.

Self Belief

These days we often hear the words: believe in yourself.  But how can we believe in ourselves if no one has believed in us until now?

You may know that if you don’t believe in yourself, there’s a bigger chance for you to be a failure and it doesn’t matter that you really gofor what you wantbut something along the way will stop you from achieving your goal.

I’d like you to look and see if there is something similar about the way you have a tendency to fail.  Can it be at the beginning – you have a great idea but before you start you finish because …? Or you start on something and by the third time it hasn’t worked out you give up? Or that you go straight into a project without any research and you fail along the way because of that? If we don’t believe in ourselves we can easily fail along the way just to prove we are not good enough.

So how do we go about changing that?

Start speaking kindly to yourself.  Be gentle on yourself or at the very least don’t say anything about yourself if it’s not positive.

Look at where you stop yourself. After that look at how you can prevent that step. If it’s because you don’t get started, then start to make plans with small steps. If you fail because you don’t have the information you need, do the research and check out the information before you start.

Start supporting someone else with their new idea and this will encourage you to do your own project.

If you can’t get the support you need then start to get the support from within yourself.

Say daily to yourself ‘I can do it and I’m happy to do it.’    

Self belief is a very importantand often we didn’t have that when we were growing up or someone who is important to us takes away that sense of believing in ourselves.  Just take it back. If you can spread positive thoughts around its will make a big difference in your daily life and to others as well. People living on the street or who have depressing lives are in this situation because no one believes in them and they don’t know how to believeinthemselves any more either. Start believing in yourself and support others too.Very often those we look down on need more help and courage from others to stand up and go in a better direction in life.