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How we can help to care for our feminine parts

In the past many cultures have had lots of ways of looking after a woman’s yoni.

How do you clean your vagina?


Take a cucumber and peal off the skin. Then insert the cucumber inside your vagina and move it around. That helps to clean your vagina.


You can use garlic when you have a yeast infection or feel some internal discomfort.   Peal and cut a clove of garlic and place the garlic into your vagina. Leave for around 20 minutes.  If it starts to take on a burning sensation remove the garlic sooner. Garlic is a very good antibiotic.

Steamed herbs

Steamed herbs are regenerative. Boil herbs in water and leave with the lid on to keep the steam in.  Find something that you can sit on, for example, a low chair or the toilet. Put the boiled herbs into an uncovered bowl.  Cover yourself so you feel warm, position yourself comfortable above the bowl and let the steam go into your feminine parts for 15 minutes or more.

Yoni egg

Yoni eggs help you support your pelvic floor. They are made in different sizes and different materials. I prefer stone or glass but they are made in lots of sizes and material. It’s important to find what size is suitable for you. For beginners it’s a maximum of fifteen minutes is enough and if you feel comfortable you could extend this time for any amount of time. Another way of supporting your pelvic floor is by squeezing your pelvic muscles and holding them like this. You could try this, for example, when going to the toiled and stopping mid stream when urinating.

Open up to life

When: All the time

Why: When we have a fixed idea in our mind about something we are not always open to alternatives. So when an alternative is offered we think that’s not good enough. I believe a lot of our depression is from having a closed mind.  For example, you want to go for a holiday somewhere exotic such as Easter Island but you may not have enough money so you end up visiting somewhere close by.  If you are stuck on wanting to go somewhere else you won’t enjoy the other option and won’t have a great experience or make new friends.  So you will feel unfulfilled. But if you say well that’s fine too, it’s a big opportunity even though it’s not what I wanted to do, you will have a great time meeting new people and having new experiences. We never know what is around the corner. The more open we are, the more we can get out of our lives.

How: When something comes along that you don’t want to try, do this:

  • breathe into your body and relax
  • connect with yourself and open up.

If you feel scared to open up to the new experience fully, breathe into that feeling. If you do this the fear or whatever emotion you are experiencing should weaken. This way it should be easier for you to open up and allow whatever is coming into your life. When you are opening up you might experience new feelings but don’t give in to ‘mind talk’. Just carry on opening up to the  sensation.

Clean your Closets

When: This week and then every 3 months.

Why: Having a tidy place is good for us on so many levels. It relaxes our minds, we are more productive and it helps us to keep feeling positive.  When we go through our clothing and other possessions we find stuff that we forget we have. By having a sort out we can start using things again or give them away. You make space in your home and often we feel freed up mentally as well by doing this.

How: Choose one shelf or one closet.

Get three boxes or make three piles.

Take one thing at a time and ask yourself these two questions. When was the last time I used this? How important is it?

If you haven’t used it for a long time or it’s not functional put it in the box or pile for throwing out. If it’s something you have a personal attachment to you or you use once in a while put in the second ‘maybe’ box or pile.   What you use put in the third box or pile to keep. Then put that box or pile away back to where those items belong.

This way you should have a box or pile of things that you may keep.  (I recommend that you are very strict with the ‘maybe’ box and don’t keep more than half of that stuff.)

After doing this you have a box of stuff that you don’t need. Anything that’s broken put in the rubbish. You have options for the things you don’t want any more.  You can give to friends who will enjoy those things, sell them, put on a swap party with friends or give to charity.

If you are person who can’t throw stuff out ask a friend to go with you and throw things out after you’ve taken them from your home.

If you repeat this every three months you should keep your home in order, you will use everything and you will feel good about what you’ve done.

Self Belief

These days we often hear the words: believe in yourself.  But how can we believe in ourselves if no one has believed in us until now?

You may know that if you don’t believe in yourself, there’s a bigger chance for you to be a failure and it doesn’t matter that you really gofor what you wantbut something along the way will stop you from achieving your goal.

I’d like you to look and see if there is something similar about the way you have a tendency to fail.  Can it be at the beginning – you have a great idea but before you start you finish because …? Or you start on something and by the third time it hasn’t worked out you give up? Or that you go straight into a project without any research and you fail along the way because of that? If we don’t believe in ourselves we can easily fail along the way just to prove we are not good enough.

So how do we go about changing that?

Start speaking kindly to yourself.  Be gentle on yourself or at the very least don’t say anything about yourself if it’s not positive.

Look at where you stop yourself. After that look at how you can prevent that step. If it’s because you don’t get started, then start to make plans with small steps. If you fail because you don’t have the information you need, do the research and check out the information before you start.

Start supporting someone else with their new idea and this will encourage you to do your own project.

If you can’t get the support you need then start to get the support from within yourself.

Say daily to yourself ‘I can do it and I’m happy to do it.’    

Self belief is a very importantand often we didn’t have that when we were growing up or someone who is important to us takes away that sense of believing in ourselves.  Just take it back. If you can spread positive thoughts around its will make a big difference in your daily life and to others as well. People living on the street or who have depressing lives are in this situation because no one believes in them and they don’t know how to believeinthemselves any more either. Start believing in yourself and support others too.Very often those we look down on need more help and courage from others to stand up and go in a better direction in life.

What is life all about?

Remind yourself on a daily basis.

Why: I just read a special story about a man who died and as he reached that point of passing on he met with his ‘angel’.  He realised his angel was holding a suitcase.

The man asks, ‘What is in the suitcase?’

The angel answers, ‘Everything that you had.’

So the man starts asking, ‘It’s my stuff and my money?’

The angel says ‘No, that was never yours.’

‘So it’s my memory?’

‘No, that pertains to time.’

‘So it’s my skills and knowledge?’

‘No, that was just the circumstance of your life.’

‘So it’s my family and friends?’

‘No, they just walked along beside you through life.’

‘What about my wife and kids?’

‘They belong to your heart.’

‘What about my body?’

‘That now has turned to dust.’

‘What about my soul?’

‘That belongs to God now.’

The man took the suitcase and opened it.  He didn’t find anything in it. The angel said to the man who was in shock, ‘That was your life and that was the way you wanted to live it.

I love this story because it tells us how we can look at our life in a different way. How often do we make apologies for ourselves and the things we do by saying that we can’t do this or that because we have something else that needs to be done instead.  What does is it mean to you if I say that you only have this one life. There is no other one. Does this make you think about whether you are truly living the life you would like to live?

How do you go about making changes in your life? Quite simply you need to take responsibility for yourself.

Look at your life as it is and see where you can do more of what you want to do and then go about making the changes to achieve that.

Appreciate the beauty around you. Explore new opportunities.

Is money, your work or a big house really that important to you after all?

Be a secret helper

When: once a month or any time you see the opportunity.

Why: Helping someone gives you a good feeling and helps the whole world. Any small kind deed helps the planet to go in a better direction. And if your help is performed anonymously it means so much more. First of all the person who has been helped doesn’t feel the need to do something in return. Then there’s a nice sense of mystery in the experience.  And you know you’re doing this from a true sense of honesty, because you don’t expect anything for it, even the THANK YOU word.

How: You can do a lot of stuff.  Just look around nearby where you live. You may have an older neighbour whose grass you can cut when they are away.

Leave some flour at the door for a woman neighbour.

Arrange for coffee to be delivered to your colleagues.

Provide dinner for someone who doesn’t have much money.

Give away some of your clothes.

I’m sure you will find something you can do from time to time.

Prevention instead of Cure 

When: once a week.

Why: When we are sick we are happy to pay for medicine or take time out from our jobs. But when we are OK we hold on to money and don’t take time out for ourselves. We feel guilty if we take time for ourselves without a reason. Essentially who else can be more important than you.  Your life depends on you! So it’s our responsibility to take care of ourselves and our own lives.

If you have kids you do everything for them first but time to time you need to do stuff for yourself. Otherwise you will collapse or burn out.

If you run a business you need to put energy into that but time to time you need to put energy into yourself.   If you are single and just work it is the same.

We have lot of excuses about not having the time to look after ourselves until it’s too late. It doesn’t need to be anything big. It can be simply a quiet time with a cup of tea. Go for a walk, take up a sport or take a bath. Importantly it’s something that you enjoy and helps you recharge.

How: Make a realistic time. If you are the mother of a baby, maybe 30 minutes a week. If you are single, an hour or so every three days.

Find what it is that helps you to relax and recharge. Be honest with yourself and do it no matter what. Do it regularly. Once a year isn’t enough.

Stop procrastinating!  

When: 10 to 15  minutes each day

Why:  Procrastination is the main reason why we fail to reach our goals. We know what we should do but we keep postponing important tasks for later on, for another time. We play games or we surf the web, do small tasks, see friends, we do any and everything, just not that one thing that we need to do.  We do this because concentrating on an important task is often unpleasant. It’s difficult, boring or outside our comfort zone. It’s too easy do stuff that we like doing and have fun instead.

How: Every day make time for getting on with something that needs to be done, a time when you don’t procrastinate.  I find it’s good to do this early in the morning, this way I know I’ve achieved a goal and I can then enjoy my time. Plus I have least resistance at that time.  For the first three days do 5 minutes and start building up after that.

Before you start on a task be sure you have a clear area so nothing will distract you – switch off Facebook, radio or TV, if necessary switch off your telephone, whatever it is that distracts you. You can put a timer on so you know how long you are taking on your task.

First work out what needs to be done. Make a plan before you start.  For example, today I will just collect information. Tomorrow I will just read the information. The day after I will …and this way you don’t get lost.

If you start feeling you want to do something else just stop and take note of that feeling.  Accept it and breathe into it. It’s OK to feel that way.

When you start seeing some results you might want to start on another project at a different time of the day.

Every time you successfully complete the task in your allocated time – whether it’s 15 minutes or however long you chose – reward yourself.  That helps you to keep going and it’s important to be proud of yourself.




Making time for the things you like doing

When: every day choose 1-3 things that are important for you to do that are not work related.  Make time to do this today.

Why: this helps you to be more satisfied in your daily life. It improves your life and helps you get what you really want out of life.

How: Choose the things you like doing. These can be personal, about family,  ways of relaxing, meeting someone, or calling a friend.

When you find what you would like to do TODAY make plans as soon as possible, ideally in the morning.  That means you will succeed in doing what you really want to do rather than jobs that have to be done.

If something needs to be prepared beforehand do it now. For example, you’d like to go to the restaurant for dinner, so call and make a reservation now. Pick up a book on the way to work if you would like to read today.

When you have booked your time for this activity don’t make excuses for not doing it and treat the activity in the same way you would a work commitment.

Most people need to put more fun into their work and more work into their fun.

Enjoy whatever it is you chose to do for relaxation and don’t think about how you could be using this time to get on with a job that needs to be done.



Question everything


When: Questioning everything helps you to get to know yourself better and do what you really want to do.

Why: When you discover new information just question that information if it’s for you, if it will work for you.

How: You hear that drinking water with lemon each morning is healthy. So ask yourself these questions. Do I like lemon? Does my morning ritual work for me already? Do I want to try to do this? If you try drinking water with lemon did it work for me? Do I want to carry on with this? How is it honestly benefiting me?

Everyone has their own way of doing things so find your own journey.